As someone who deals with unspecified aspects of anxiety/depression stuff, how the hell do you cope with sharing your work online? People are so cruel and even when they are not cruel, the possibility is just hanging there. And it's so easy to "not give a fuck" until you get hate mail and then it's too easy to cry and not get out of bed. I just put out my first little self published poetry book and no one has said anything negative AT ALL but I'm still a ball of awful nerves.
Secondly: It’s hard.
I’ve had a lot of negative feedback. Some of it was justified, a lot of it was not. I used to get so up in my head about every single negative comment I got, until I got so many comments (both positive and negative) that I had to be able to move past it or I couldn’t live my life.
It’s really scary, being open to criticism. The thing you have to learn - and it only comes with time and experience - is realizing the difference between a legitimate concern and people being hateful idiots. I’ve done things before that I’ve seen people get SO angry about and thought “well that’s ridiculous,” and I’ve also done things and seen people get hurt by my words and though “oh fuck, why did I ever, ever write that?” I used to be bad for that. Not knowing the difference. I’m learning. Always learning.
You have to get past that fear of rejection. I’ve had a lot of nights curled up in a ball in my room ready to pull the plug on comics, had to have my friends talk me down, had to shut off the internet for a day and go outside to get a reality check, because some teenager in Iowa sent me a 5-page email about all the ways I should kill myself because she disagreed with the way I defined bisexuality.
(Which, let’s be real, those comics are pretty cringeworthy to look back on, but they don’t deserve death threats.)
AN Y WAY, I’m so tired and rambling, but the thing is you just have to steel yourself and be brave. You can’t avoid criticism. Someone will always hate what you do. You live for the people who get something from it. If you’re lucky, you find people who love it.
can we just take a moment to imagine little cute nine-year-old hermione reading matilda
and peering into this book about a smart, bookish girl who could move things with her mind
and then can you imagine her concentrating very hard on the books on the bookshelf and slowly, slowly, getting them to move
Sometimes I get huffy about tumblr but then I see that 260,000 people got the same kind of chills I did reading this…